“There’s a really simple philosophy and
approach that I’ve adopted over the past 15
years that’s allowed me to create incredible
success in the area of money, happiness,
health, relationships, decision making and so
Here’s the thing. As hard as we try, success is something that will avoid most people in their lifetime. Most of us won’t experience that true level of success that others are capable of. Be it our self destructive thinking, low productivity, an inability to perform under pressure, continually blaming stress, having fixed ideas, lack of daily rituals, always busy but never effective and of course a very low level of responsibility.
So why is it that things such as true fulfillment, happiness, health, prosperity and self worth continually dogs us and instead, we’re left with a life of constantly blaming others, justifying our position and playing the victim. What robs us of our true potential?
Whilst there are many valid answers to this question, based on my observation and experience, one simple method I have adopted in order to answer this question is simply;
“Look at what most people are doing in life and do the opposite”
If the masses are struggling in such areas as health, money, relationships, mindset, spirituality, career and overall happiness, why do we constantly follow their path? The reason is that we want to blend in with the crowd. It’s safer in numbers and we can hide in the pack. After all, we all want to be liked and if my life sucks, at least it’s better than the other poor loser next door. After all, didn’t someone say that misery loves company?
About 10 years ago I recall being invited to look at a new philosophy by a friend of mine. I remember being taken by surprise as this philosophy was and still receives a lot of negative press and media all over the world. So why would I want to have a look at something that most agreed to as being evil and no good? What I found more shocking was that my very very successful friend had been studying this philosophy for the last 12 months without saying a word to me. A few days later as I’m driving into town to see this philosophy for the first time, I turned to my wife and said “You know what, the fact that so many people dislike this philosophy and speak so badly of it, I actually think it’s something we need to look at, as it must be good.” You see, following the masses and the group think has never helped man overcome anything much in life. If anything, it has sent man deeper and deeper into the abyss with very few answers to life’s biggest questions.
This sheep mentality is what eventually leads all of us to the wolves… one by one. As a society, we’re so influenced by what is popular and what everyone else is doing. We don’t even ask if it’s any good for us and if it’s bringing us closer to our goals or life’s purpose. We just follow the people in front of us, we go into agreement with the bigger group and what’s most popular, and we pay very little attention to how well it’s helping our survival, if it is at all.
Our decisions seem to be all influenced by the media, our upbringing, previous experiences, friends, family, cultural background, so called experts that have zero results and through the fear of being left out of the crowd. Heaven forbid we should stand out, even for a minute. Sadly however, this is how we seem to arrive at life’s major decisions and conclusions. Instead of looking and evaluating for ourselves, we listen to the news because let’s face it … if it’s on the news it must be true right? As result, people struggle to control their environment and then become effect of their environment, rather than cause over their environment. Their lives become out of control and everything is left to a fading chance and hope.
One of the best ways to become successful is study the absolute best in a particular field where you wish to excel. Model someone great who has the results you wish to achieve. Here’s an example. If I wanted to learn how to play tennis, I would study and model someone like Roger Federer, Rafael Nadal or Novak Djokovic. Why would you listen to your cousin on a Saturday morning about learning how to volley or return a backhand? He has no results in this space, yet because he’s watched a few games, he’s an expert? He’s certainly not the best or even close, yet we take advice from such people just because they know a little about the subject. Free advice will always be the most expensive advice you’ll ever receive.
So if you follow what most people do, if you follow the masses, the ones who aren’t doing well, you’re going to get the same results as them. Ask yourself, “Do you like their results?” There is nothing noble about following the pack. If you want to be successful in life, look at what 95% of the people out there do, and do the opposite.
Let’s take money as an example. Most people’s understanding of money is very poor. We earn it, we spend it. There is very little that is saved, invested, or set aside to enhance other parts of our lives. Financial intelligence is at an all time low, even though the availability of information, knowledge and technology is greater than ever before. Most people are not very good money managers and as a result, they struggle financially. So, if you want different results, you need to look at doing something different to what these people are doing or else don’t complain about where you are now or where you end up.
Take the 95% and DON’T study them, DON’T duplicate them and DON’T listen to them. Instead, look at the 5% in life who are doing extremely well; they’re the people that you should copy, they’re the people that you should blue-print, duplicate and study.
So you need to be well aware of what most people do and then you need to do the opposite. When they go left, you go right. It’s a really simple philosophy that has enabled me to fast track to where I am today. I looked at what most people were doing on a Friday night and I did the opposite. My friends would be going out on a Saturday night, partying, drinking and so on. I’d be studying and learning. On a Friday night, what do most people do? They finish work, they go to a bar, get drunk, watch whatever is on TV and make nuisances of themselves and everybody else around them. Not my game. Choose a game that forwards your purpose and not takes you further away from it.
Have a look at what you see on TV. If you’re one of the people watching the news or one of those ridiculous reality shows and you find yourself in conversation with people on social media or at work about those shows, you’re the problem. You’re going to end up where those people end up, because you have agreement and reality on subjects like that. The most successful people in the world do not watch a lot of TV. Instead, they read and build up knowledge and skill and then apply and demonstrate it daily.
Learn to observe. Be a very attentive observer in life, and look at what most people do. Look at how they spend their time, look at what they drive and look at the subjects they communicate about. One of the biggest indicators as to how well a person is doing in life, is what they spend their time communicating about. Do they talk about ideas, concepts and visions? Are they talking about subjects that are of the highest value to the greatest number of people? Or are they gossiping? Do they talk about situations and other people? Stay away from people who talk about individuals and situations. You want to deal with people who are talking about big ideas, big concepts and grandiose visions. They are the people you want to associate with, because they are going somewhere. They are the people who can obviously see what other people can’t see.
I tried this left and to this day, it still feels right. This is one of the fastest ways to become successful.
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